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Therapy for Perfectionism, Online Across Ontario and in London

Does “good enough” never quite feel good enough? Do you redo the email three times, replay every mistake at 2 a.m., or feel like rest has to be earned?

Perfectionism often looks like success from the outside. On the inside, it can feel like running on a treadmill that keeps speeding up. Therapy can help you step off, catch your breath, and find a kinder way to be with yourself.

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Signs perfectionism might be running the show

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  • You set impossibly high standards, then criticize yourself for missing them

  • You procrastinate because starting feels risky if it might not be perfect

  • Small mistakes feel huge and stay with you for days

  • You struggle to rest, delegate, or celebrate wins

  • Your worth feels tied to how much you achieve or how “together” you look

  • You feel exhausted, burnt out, or quietly anxious most of the time

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Where perfectionism comes from

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That inner critic didn’t appear out of nowhere. Often it moved in early, maybe in a home where mistakes felt costly, where praise came with conditions, or where being “the capable one” was your role. It was trying to protect you from criticism, rejection, or chaos. The trouble is, it never got the memo that you’re allowed to relax now.

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How therapy can help with perfectionism

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The goal isn’t to stop caring or lower your standards to the floor. It’s to keep what serves you and loosen what’s wearing you down. Together, we can:

  • Get curious about your inner critic, where it came from and what it’s afraid of

  • Separate your worth from your productivity

  • Practise “good enough” in small, low-stakes ways

  • Make room for rest, play, and imperfection without the guilt

  • Respond to mistakes with understanding instead of punishment

Hi I'm Gabrielle Ferguson 

Many of the people I work with look like they have it all together on the outside while feeling exhausted and anxious underneath. You don’t need to show up polished here. You’re welcome to come as a hot mess, and we’ll start right there.

I see perfectionism as a protective strategy, not a flaw. Together we’ll honour what it’s done for you, then help you discover that you’re worthy as you are, mistakes, messy middles, and all.

I’m a Registered Psychotherapist and the clinical director of Authentic Living London. I offer virtual sessions anywhere in Ontario.

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FAQ

Is perfectionism a mental health condition?
Not on its own. It’s a pattern that often shows up alongside anxiety, burnout, or low self-worth. You don’t need a diagnosis to start therapy.

 

What if I’m a perfectionist about therapy too?
Very common, and very welcome. There’s no right way to do this, and we’ll go at your pace.

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What’s the difference between high standards and perfectionism?
High standards motivate you, and you can still feel good when you fall a little short. Perfectionism feels driven by fear, of failing, being judged, or not being enough, so even successes rarely feel satisfying. The difference is usually less about the goal and more about how harshly you treat yourself along the way.

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Is therapy covered by insurance?
Many extended health plans cover sessions with a Registered Psychotherapist. Check your plan for details.

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Do you offer virtual sessions?
Yes. We offer secure online therapy anywhere in Ontario, and in-person sessions in London.

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You don’t have to get this right on the first try. Book a free 15-minute consultation and we’ll start from wherever you are.

Contact

We would love to hear from you.

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Please reach out to us in whichever way feels most comfortable to you and we will get back to you within 1-2 business days at most.

130 Thompson Road, London, ON

226-224-0301 (call or text)

info@authenticlivinglondon.com

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